Confusion stops you from being who you are
Let’s talk about this great topic. Confusion is a feeling that stops your pursuit and badly transform your mood. Such a great topic!!
This word can be related to a lot of things that happens during our life: loneliness, lack of purpose, sadness, toxic relationships, apathy, depression, etc….
I managed confusion for several years, and I passed through all this stages that I listed, so I want to clarify something about it.
Confusion becomes real and strong normally when we do not have two important foundation: will and balance.
Through will we are open, curious, involved in building something concrete. That’s the engine of our productivity and positivity.
Through balance, we can manage all the spheres of our life, giving the right weight to everyone of them. Balance is also connected to having clear our inner self: what let us feel good and what is not. What we should avoid, and what we are made of. Unfortunately we need a deep consciousness about ourself to have a wise idea about that, after removing lots of limiting beliefs, fake needs, expectations, bad behaviour, etc.
Only in this way we can truly know ourselves because we becomes free to become what we really want and feel.
When we do not have these two foundations, everything becomes uncertain, and we fall into confusion.
An exemple of confusion
For example, in a toxic relationship we can become dependent of the other person’s needs. Or we put that person at the core of all our existance. But that’s risky, because if that center disappear or becomes controverted, we lose our sight and happiness. When it happens, we need to find a new core that replace the old one, and that brings suffering. All our security and peace disappear in the anxiety of finding a new partner that let us feel good. And if that doesn’t happen, we become sadder, lonely and then apathic or cinic.
We are no more made of love (actively giving), so we seek for love (passively getting). But love should be our engine, the engine of our actions. Love allows to find new roads, new purposes and get out of the confort zone that often close our sight.
Confusion can be fought through these suggestions, but also reading through matherial from huge thinkers that passes through history as Osho, Krishnamurti, Tolle, De Mello. These thinkers strongly helped me to become more focused, removing all the fake facades of my identity.
I will conclude saying that confusion could simply felt at the beginning of a new period of your life in which you are ready to new challanges (but you still don’t know, so you feel confused). In fact confusion can also be really positive. Because it could happens after a period of bad habbits that you decide you won’t follow anymore because meanwhile you growed, so in this period you are changing page of your life.
In this case, keep going in your new ideas and challenging, you are out of your comfort zone, so good vibes will arrive soon!
That’s why confusion stops your pursuit, and in which cases it’s the signal of a good changement, I hope it helps!